My partner and I live together with my 2 children and his 2 children, they see their mum on a Wednesday night and every other weekend. She' always been a bit odd, she seems to abandon her children then want them again. My partner has always been the main carer , they go to school in the town we live in she lives about half an hour away, not that far away but it's harder for her to do school runs I guess so her girls have stayed with us more and more. Unfortunately my son goes to the same school as my step children and I see his ex wife at least once a week. This has been this way since September.
First she picked a fight with me because she thought I was giving her funny looks and I was being rude by not talking to her. She text my partner saying tell bo selector to stop being so rude etc etc . I was just minding my own business and trying avoid any confrontation. Then a time came one of her daughters was ill ,as I was the closest I went to pick her up and bought her home, when her mum got wind of that she went mad with us all and said I'm coming to get her daughter. I had to go to work for an hour so I left dsd in the house (she is 11) while her mum drove up to get her. Unfortunately this meant her mum had to come in the house while her dd sorted her stuff. To cut a long story short we found hand written 'fuck u' notes stuck up on the wall in my own dd room, we have reason to believe this was her! I was fuming , especially as my dd was going through bullying at school at the time and is 12 so a difficult age.
We've had other small issues like the ex texting on the day she picks her children up saying they look like gypos when ever she picks them up or She can't pick them up this day cos she going to a meeting, why they wearing this that and the other. She also doesn't always get them to school when she has them over night.
Then it all started to explode around Mother's Day when she announced she was spitting up with her husband. She suddenly wanted her children in particular the youngest one to live with her, change schools etc etc . Obviously my partner the dad was opposed to this and said no why not go back to seeing them 50% of the time like the agreement before the days were dropped by her. She didn't like this and started to shout and call him names. Anyway when the day came to pick my ds up the same day as she picked up her dd. She approached me , I said I didn't want to discuss anything with her especially as my ds was there then. She proceeded to tell me her girls weren't happy living with us, didn't like me, my partner is using me , he's just moved me in look after the children , I'll see through him one day and how the kids said they aren't happy with us and they hate me. Which I know isn't the case. She then followed me home to tell me that she asked her dd why she told me she liked me she said her dd said she was too scared to say otherwise , all this was in front of our youngest children, hers was in floods of tears and my ds said he was scared. Also a police car was near my house waiting to see someone else and heard all this so told her to back off . She then told the police I tried to run her over, which was untrue obviously, nothing came of it because they checked cctv. But I'm absolutely sick of it! It's hard enough being a step mum in a new town meeting new friends getting used to new schools without her causing all this trouble. What the hell do I do?!
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Thatslife72 · 31/03/2016 21:55
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