Sorry if this is long.
DM and I have always had a fraught relationship. DB was the golden child and I was never made to feel loved
Fast forward and we have been NC with DB for a number of years (long long story)
DH and I have had a difficult few years financially. House needs decorating etc . She is a great grandparent but always seems to criticize me. I know she hates my D H ( when I first met him she said I disgusted her as he was from a different ethnic background).
When she stays here she does help a lot with housework etc but constantly knit picks & walks round with a cat bum face.
We are constantly falling out and she says it's only because she worries about me
DF says I should suck it up & ignore her when she moans. I feel that I have a right to answer back when she upsets me.
Because we don't see DB I feel that everything is on me. She expects me to phone her every day and she really gets me down with her constant moaning
Anyway we have had another spectacular argument about how I am living my life.
It is a rather significant birthday this weekend and both parents were due to come and stay.
She says they are not coming now . She would say a lot more to me but won't as she doesn't want me to stop her seeing my children (something I would never do).
So, I have to suck up to her or stand up to her and feel guilty for the next 10 years that I messed up her big birthday.
Any advice would be appreciated . Thank you for reading
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scribbles1980 · 31/03/2016 14:39
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