If men were a catch/good looking/attractive/kind/thoughtful etc etc with no relationship-killer bad points (adulterous/addicts/abusive/lazy/selfish/unattractive etc etc), then surely all the good ones would have been taken by the time they are 35 or thereabouts? This means any who are over 35 and single must have relationship-killer bad points? This is very cynical I know, but I haven't made any effort to date knowing that if I date a man over 35 there must be a (bad) reason he isn't with anyone else. I am excluding those who are single through being widowed as this isn't their fault. Can anyone please tell me otherwise?! Please tell me there must be some genuinely nice single men over 35 out there who haven't got any serious failings? I suppose there must be some guys who are single because they decided to quit their previous relationships (rather than the other way round) - so please tell me about those to give me some faith that there are potentially nice ones out there! (btw - I know all of the above logic applies to single women - ie all the good ones are taken over a certain age etc but I am just interested re single men). I suppose also that some men are single becuase former partners left them for trivial reasons (ie reasons that would not be a problem to others)? If you know of these, please say, because at the moment I feel far too sceptical, but willing to have my mind changed...
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Too sceptical to date believing that over 40, all the good men must surely be taken
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earlycomputers · 29/03/2016 22:53
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