I'm curious about this. I see a lot of threads on here from people who are in the acute stages of grief for relationships that have ended, usually the early weeks/months, and the advice is always the same - go NC, delete, block, avoid any contact at all costs.
I'm wondering - does anyone actually manage to do this, when they're at their most raw painful time, when every fibre in their being wants to be with the person who's dumped them?
I've been dumped several times in my life, from long and short relationships, but I've never been able to block someone. I just found it too hard. I've usually managed to stay relatively friendly with them, and that has actually helped me to stop idolising them, and enabled me to see them as a normal person, rather than the deity they became in my mind after they rejected me. A couple of times I've not stayed friends, due to their new partner opposing it, and so I've gone NC through no choice of my own. I have to say, in these instances, my recovery hasn't been any faster or slower than the ones I've stayed in contact with.
Of course it's each to their own, but am I so unusual in this experience of deleting/blocking not necessarily being the answer?
Obviously this doesn't apply to abusive relationships, where as little contact as possible is the best option I'm sure.
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How many people really have deleted an ex after just being dumped?
Jollyphonics · 22/03/2016 17:37
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