Putting this here because I don't want to get railroaded over in AIBU... but it is a bit of an AIBU question.
Friend just had her second DC a couple of weeks ago. She had an emergency C-section and was in hospital for 4 days. We are part of a wider group of friends, about 6 of us in total. Everyone else apart from me has been to see her in hospital or else visited her at home so they have seen the new baby. I texted her last week and offered to drop by with some food or anything she needed and she said she was doing fine and had family there. Had a light exchange of texts and that was that. She hasn't invited me over to see the baby and I haven't pushed it since then. We had a baby shower for her a couple of months ago so I have already bought her a gift and contributed to a meal prep service.
So should I text her again to offer to come by? I feel like leaving it up to her really. She has been short with me for the past year or so, blanked me when we were at group events, taking me up wrong on things to start an argument, giving looks to others when I say things etc. It's been awkward but it's not all the time either, just randomly and usually at group events. I have just tried to ignore the sniping and not react. I kind of worry that if I did the friendship would just crumble as there is not much holding it together these days. She also said some tactless / hurtful things to me when I was feeling exhausted last year with my newborn. To be honest, I still resent her for that and don't feel that close to her anymore.
I kind of don't want to see her & baby really but would be fine seeing her in a group if we were all doing something together. Obviously since she just had the baby that is less likely though. Am I obliged to go and see her? Should I be feeling awkward that the rest of the group has?
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Am I obliged to visit friend and new baby?
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InionEile · 18/03/2016 00:01
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