Just before valentines day I found out DH had been texting and messaging another woman, I had a thread about it then. It wasn't anything physical.
After a few days of talking it through IRL and on here I decided to give him another chance as he's taken it upon himself to see a counsellor about the issues that led to it (he has very poor self esteem for example) and he's been trying really very hard ever since to start trying to make things right and keep our marriage going.
But it seems like I can't really get past it. Its not been long, I know, but it feels like forever already. I let him back into our bedroom after a couple of weeks, we spend time together in the evenings etc and its nice, but every time I think "this is lovely, I'm having a really nice time with him", its like a shutter comes down and I get angry all over again.
This is getting all mixed up in my head with the fact that I still haven't lost the last half of the baby weight from 18mo DS and feel shit about myself, I don't have the energy or time to put into myself let alone the relationship and I'm just very, very unhappy.
What do I do? I don't know how to fix this, I don't know how to fix myself and I know I can't work on our relationship (and he's really trying) if I still feel awful and have no confidence in myself. I'm such a mess. I've spent all day wondering which friend IRL I could talk to about it but I don't want to cry in front of anyone so the internet will have to do :(
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I'm falling apart a bit today and didn't know where else to post this...
KeepsAwayTheNargles · 16/03/2016 14:29
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