Hi, My wife and I have been together for around 8 years, married only one. I need help with what to do, weve had some really ahrd times in the last year with miscarriage etc. We have a young daughter and I feel like we can work through these hard times.
Things are hard with work currently, the threats of redundancy and also medical issues, so there is stress there. However we do fight a bit about silly things, however about three weeks ago this got worse and she said that shes unhappy. I feel like she is definetly suffering with depression, as she talks about a lack of self esteem and hate for her self. However she wont talk to me about it and says she feels she cant, how she feels shes walking on eggshells around me. She says shes not happy with me anymore and her feelings have changed.
I worry that her head isn't straight currently, but also respect what shes saying (trying to listen) but I want to fight to save our marriage.
She told me shes happy for me to stay in the spare room, and we have since been out on days out with our child which has been really nice, however she says this is because our daughter is there with us. However when I suggest things such as meeting our family who have invited us places, she says im being naïve and dillusional about the situation.
I cant sit in our spare room knowing that currently she feels like this with me, she says she loves me but feels unhappy and feelings are different. I just know shes suffering at the moment and I cant help.
Should I leave for a few days, or do I stay in the spare room and try and be as normal as possible..not sure what to do now, I don't want to push her further away, she just cries in bed and doesn't speak. She speaks about her lack of friends, her hate for herself and how I make her unhappy.
Am I really being dillusional or is there something more here, I know she loves me..
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matt23 · 14/03/2016 08:09
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