Child doesn't want to visit ex partner

[Noonoo74]

My 12 yr old daughter is due to go on an Easter visit with her dad. She doesn't want to go. Do I force her?

[BastardGoDarkly]

Firstly, I've never seen a normal post in webchat before!

Has she said why she doesn't want to go? Is she normally happy visit with him?

[RebeccaMumsnet]

Hi there,

We've moved this thread over to Relationships now.

[Missrubyring]

At 12 I would say don't force her, but is she giving you any particular reason why she doesn't want to go? Does she usually go to him quite happily?

[2rebecca]

If she lived with her father and wasn't wanting to see you for Easter would you be happy not to see her? I'd be encouraging her to go if there isn't a good reason why she doesn't want to go. keeping a regular relationship with post parents should come ahead of whims. You can't force her to go age 12 but with my kids I made it clear they needed a good reason for me to back them up if they didn't go to their dad's and they wouldn't be doing anything exciting with me if they didn't go.