I've been with my Dh almost 10 years. Most of the time we get on very well and everything is ok. Now and again he gets verbally aggressive over ridiculous stuff. It's like he has a panic attack but it's directed at me. Afterwards, once I talk to him, he's very apologetic, but rarely without me practically asking for an apology. Over the last year or so, he's not done this much at all. Recently he's become very depressed (we've had a string of close bereavements in a very short time) and has reverted back to thsee angry outburst again. They never last long. I told him I was going to go and see a solicitor to get a divorce, next time Im off work (next week). He is absolutely devastated. I know he is desperate to stop acting the way he does. We love each other a lot. I don't know how much to excuse given the hell he's been through recently. I know he's no right to lose it with me over nothing though. I just wish he'd change. His self esteem is very low. He's not in a good place. Trouble is he now has no family to support him. He has a few who live abroad but he barely knows them. I am his best friend, his world. He genuinely hates the way he treats me. He is desperate to change. Yes, he manages to control himself at work. He is not physically aggressive ever. He didn't have a great childhood (not making excuses, just trying to give full picture). It tends to feel that he's more angry with himself when it happens. I just want it to stop. Any thoughts beyond ltb? Thanks.
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