I know i'm blowing this out of proportion but this has been going around my head for a few days now and I just need to get it out and deal with it some how.
My DH plays in a band. He usually has at least one gig a weekend. Which is fine as we split chores/childcare etc. So I've got no issue with him being in a band. It keeps him happy and we seem to have found a balance.
My problem at the moment is a few weeks ago he played a gig and photo's went up on the band site. I don't usually look, but a few days ago I was browsing through and there were pics of him with a woman hanging off him. There were also some pics where she is very obviously eyeing him up. When I asked him about it he told me that she'd been all over him. Licked his face and was getting up on stage etc. I asked him why he didn't mention it before & he said it wasn't a big deal. It happens sometimes and its just part of being in a band around drunk people.
I trust him and know that he wouldn't do anything, but I can't stop thinking about it. It stings that all our friends have probably seen the pics and I feel a bit embarrassed about it.
I've just started to wean off antidepressants so I know my thinking is a bit skewed at the moment and i'm feeling insecure due to depression and weight gain. But how do I get over it? At the moment I feel tearful every time he goes out for a gig. We've talked about it and he understands how I feel and I know he wouldn't do anything, but I don't know how to get over it?
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tinafaith · 07/03/2016 11:46
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