I love DP very very much and we have been raising his son who lives with us for not far off a year. We've been living together for a similar kind of period, and together for 2 years. We're under a lot of pressure - financially/moving house/my health/education etc, so I'm aware that all of this could well be me just getting overwhelmed and taking it out on the nearest and dearest, but I'm also aware my longest relationship has been 2 1/2 years and I'm wondering if relationships do get in a sticky phase now as the honeymoon period is well and truly over.
Anyway - I'm getting very antsy about money - he's never been good with his own finances and now we have very limited income it's harder but he doesn't seem to see we need to watch every penny. He isn't the tidiest and my health means I can't keep up with keeping the house in a good state, which really irritates me. He does do the vast majority of childcare and cooks our meals, so I can't say he's lazy, but he could do more! He does get to see his friends more than I do - a lot more (I get to see them once every 3 months or so, he gets to go out once a month or so), but we do live 60ish miles from our friends, it makes me annoyed that he has money to go out and see friends where as I just go round and have a take away. He says his mates won't do that...but we don't have the money for him to do that, but I can't isolate him more than he already is. I'm finding him not always that supportive (mainly with my education/diet/mental health) but at the same time he's never been in this position and he doesn't understand what it's like to get essays done/be 4 stone overweight and hate myself for it/to have PTSD and be disabled. I try to explain but it's hard to find the right moment and I find he just cuts the conversation off when it gets too much for him or he feels I'm labouring a point.
On the other hand - I have become a neurotic nag, find it hard to go shopping on my own so he has to come in tow, I have a short temper, I'm not as much fun as I once was, I have a mass of worries on my mind and we rarely get anytime without DSS around for us to just be a couple.
Am I being totally scatty and just overwhelmed or is there something more to this?
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2 year itch or am I just being scatty?
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GreenGoth89 · 03/03/2016 17:17
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