I have posted before, long, story.
He finally admitted to a "mistake" in September, I had started having suspicions in July, which he denied.
We are together, but in separate rooms.
I have started Counselling. H has refused counselling, saying he will deal with it himself (sweep under the carpet)
He has finally made an appt for Counselling, for tomorrow.
But I really feel that he doesnt "get it".
My anger, loss of trust, betrayal, humiliation, yes, the list of emotions goes on, its like a roller coaster.
Yes, he has apologised, says it will never happen again. But he is not taking it seriously enough as far as I am concerned.
I know the OW has ended, and nothing has happened since last July.
A 40 year marriage, I told him, I am prepared to support him, if he does the counselling. See if we can work it out somehow.
I don't know if I will ever get over these feellings. I certainly cant forgive and forget.
I really want to sit him down for a talk, before his appt.
Make it clear that he needs to do this for his self, as well as me.
We both can't live like this, the longer it goes on, my bitterness is getting worse.
If he had dealt with it like it asked at the start, things may not have become this bad.
I know its against what most MN's think, but I need to try again.
But I need to know he takes it seriously, and I can move forward with trust.
Help and support needed to help him see things from my point of view, so that we can try to sort it out.
He has been good to me, and answers questions, but there is feeling of him not fully understanding how it has affected me.
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Support needed re H's counselling please
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janaus · 03/03/2016 04:25
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