I'm 23 and currently living back home for a few months while studying. This has impacted on my parents of course and I'm really grateful for their support, they have been incredible.
Just watched an upsetting documentary with my mum and remarked on how lucky I am (and I know it) to be able to move home at my age, and receive their support. She agreed and sort of said I should use it to spur me on and that I should have been working full-time this year (long story, basically I'm taking another year to finish my uni education).
She seems to think it spurs me on to criticise me rather than praise: oh, you could/should have done that last year/your friends are leaving you behind/look how lucky you are/look what you should have been doing/look how successful you could have been youre such a disappointment
She then began to shout at me as her and my dad had v kindly saved some money up, I think intending for it to be a housing deposit. I really don't want to sound ungrateful but I can't help but think such a gift would no doubt have something attached to it, and that if I managed to buy a house with the money, she would see it as "hers" or see it as her having helped me. She screamed at me that I should hurry up and finish studying so I could buy somewhere immediately, it was all my fault for taking so long to finish etc. etc.
Is it me? I feel like a selfish bitch: she means well and she is offering me this amazing thing (which I know she has worked hard for), but equally I feel like it comes with so many strings attached. I would so prefer for them to use the money they have saved hard for and do something nice with it. I would feel forever indebted to her if she gifted it to me.
She is furious with me for "ruining her evening" and making what could have been a nice discussion into an argument.
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Had argument with my mother and now I feel horrible
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theungratefuldaughter149 · 02/03/2016 02:28
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