In October 2014 I took my children and fled, firstly to a tent and I was then placed in a refuge by the council. Stayed 9 weeks before my ex got wind of the area I was in (thanks vodafone!) and told the council, by the end of the day I was in another refuge 200 miles away. He never hit my but ticks most of the other boxes in terms of abuse. To this day he has never admitted he is wrong even though I have gone some way to try to explain things to him.
Moving on to current day and he has contact with his children (but only supervised by me) we are not divorced and there is considerable debt on both sides. (part of his abuse was financial, sit on his arse and tell me to deal with the bills even when there was no money hence borrowing on credit cards or just not being able to pay things.) Tonight he rang me and told me that the mortgage company are about to issue proceedings for repossession, he cant pay the interest on the mortgage, there are considerable arrears and although the house has been on the market since November 14 no one has made an offer to date. It came out tonight that he expects 100% of any profits after sale (if repossession happens it will probably be in negative equity) he believes he's entitled to this as he's paid the bills for the last 18 months.
However, most worrying to me was that he also told me tonight that he now has my address and postcode so his solicitor can send me documents. When I questioned how he'd got it he said as I wasn't prepared to give it to him that he'd paid a private investigator. I've been so careful, I've signed up for nothing, even made sure when I filled in the electors thing that I misspelled my surname. So how has someone found out my address, I don't think its a bluff either :(
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Am I loosing the plot and how the hell did he find me?
foggymountainbreakdown · 01/03/2016 22:00
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