I've been having doubts about our marriage recently and I'm not really sure what to do about it.
We'ce been together 6 years, married for 1 year, known him forever. He's a nice guy, but we don't seem to share interests and we are total opposites. I find him quite attractive still, but we don't have a lot of sex (when we do, it's good) and it tends to feel like we're just very good friends.
These things are starting to matter to me more as I get older. If I'm honest, I find him a little boring. The only real interests he has are movies, cars and coffee and he is a serial hobbyist, where he doesn't actually do the hobby, he just spends weeks researching the best equipment, buys it and refuses to sell it or use it. He comes home and spends his evenings on Reddit. At the weekends I want to be out making the most of our free time. He wants to be in his pyjamas all weekend. We compromise by having a day of each, but he moans like child when we go out on and is constantly irritated and sulky.
I want to explore and travel. My husband deemed 3.5 hours drive too far to go on holiday this year and wanted to go somewhere closer with wifi.
I've stopped taking him out on dates because the only thing he seems to truly enjoy is going to the cinema and eating at macdonalds. any effort I've made to do more interesting things hasn't been appreciated. We try and see some live music but only about once a year. I can't ever remember a time when he arranged a date.
I arranged our whole wedding and honeymoon single handedly. The only thing I asked him to do was write thank you cards to his side of his family (about 10 in all). A year later and they're still not done. He also wanted an anniversary party as we had a small wedding. I thought it was a great idea, but he was in charge of the planning as I'd done the wedding. This also never happened.
I'm sure he must find me irritating too. Obviously we enjoy different interests, but I am an early riser, I can be distant, I'm very organised and like to be busy. All things he is not!
He's honestly a nice guy. He's clever and funny, but I really feel like we're so mismatched and could possibly be happier with other people.
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Libertybazar · 23/02/2016 17:40
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