I recently started a new job. One of my colleagues who started a few months before me has been helping me out with tasks and has given me advice on things I need to know.
She is a lot older than me, has recently separated from her husband and lives with her DC and her male cousin. I've always been kind to her as she seems quite vulnerable and erratic with her moods but I've never said anything about going out with her socially.
Recently she added me on Facebook but her behaviour is starting to concern me. She has made friends with everyone from work on there so I thought nothing of it when I received a friend request but since she's added me, she's been messaging me a lot and often at inappropriate times.
Last night she messaged me asking me to come and watch her DC taking part in a race at the weekend (they are SN and it has been organised by a charity) and come for dinner with them afterwards. I found this a bit random as I've never met her family. I truthfully said I had plans but thanked her for the invite.
At 2am, she messaged me saying "oh that's a shame! What about coming the next day for dinner?"
I replied the next morning saying that I couldn't come as I'm busy with family. She sent loads of sad faces and said "well I'll think of another day then and ask again!"
I didn't answer as I barely know her and would rather not go to her house for dinner to be honest. Now she's messaged saying "what about Monday?"
I'm finding this very odd as I prefer to keep work colleagues as casual friends but this woman is being very intense. I want her to stop asking as I don't want to go for dinner with her and her family, but I don't know how to say it in a way that won't offend her as I still have to see her at work.
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How can I deal with this persistent work colleague?
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complicatedstory · 19/02/2016 11:16
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