Background is that every time I try to discuss something with DH it descends into an argument with him getting really angry disproportionate to the issue. In the past he's called me names, been really nasty in arguments.
I was diagnosed with PND a few weeks ago, DH was ok but told me he isn't good at being emotionally supportive (always tells me this - when we emigrated, pregnancies, health scares). He hasn't said anything since, I've felt really alone.
At the weekends we have a plan so that each of us takes care of the baby equally (we have ds7 too) and each of us gets a break from baby duty. It's usually one of us gets a lie in then after his morning nap we alternate them alternate again after afternoon nap then he bathes and I put him to bed. Yesterday, I suggested he take him after the morning nap as he wa going out all
afternoon to the beach with DS7 - meaning I'd have baby all day again.
We had an argument, he said I can't change things to suit me, when was he going to get any free time - he'd already gone for a run and an hours nap at this stage while baby slept and I cleaned kitchen, made some lunches for the week.
Anyway in the heat of the argument he shouted at me that he needs counselling cos of me, walked out - came storming back saying 'fuck it I'm just going to say it' I said to think about what he was going to say because I'm not going to accept him listing out everything that's wrong with me or name calling - he walked away again.
He always does his share if not more of housework.
I just feel so tired of never being able to talk about anything at all because he reacts angrily. When I ask him for help practically he reacts so defensively as if by asking I'm accusing him of not doing his share.
He hasn't hugged me or given me any affection since I've been diagnosed.
But I'm all muddled, he says I'm hard to live with & I often get the feeling I'm a burden on him.
Now with this PND though I try hard not to ask anything of him, he's acting really hard done by and I feel guilty, then resentful and awful.
Any advice? Sorry for the long muddled post
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PND - should I give DH a brean
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Bupbupbup · 14/02/2016 02:42
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