Hi
I am a teacher who works for a busy boarding school. I have three kids all ages 10 and under. I am going through a very hard time with my husband. We separated just before Christmas but we tried to give it another go. I admitted to him I had a crush on somebody at work - nothing happened but he now accuses me of having an affair.
He is often moody and sulky at me. My job requires me to work evenings and he resents what he calls babysitting his children. We never have normal conversations anymore. We are from different cultures and married young and now the cracks are showing. I find sex really hard as he doesn't communicate with me properly and then expects me to want to sleep with him. I need to talk about feelings and feel loved whereas he feels love through the physical side.
He has no friends and I feel guilty if I go out to my choir once a week. I cannot carry on living like this but it will be really hard by myself with my job and childcare
. I feel like I should force myself to sleep with him because he has basically said unless we have sex he is going but he does nothing to make me feel loved. We have tried relate- he didn't talk. He doesn't want to go out together.
He also stole the details of my private bank account and constantly checks my phone.
Sorry for the length but if anyone can offer a drop of advice, I would be grateful.
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Awfullyconfusedwhat · 13/02/2016 10:02
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