Can anybody recommend an easily digestible book on codependency please?

[PacificDogwod]

I just wrote a long post but deleted it as I am looking for advice for a situation that is not mine, so will not go into details. Sorry to be so cloak and dagger about it - v attention-seeking, I know.

I'd really appreciate any suggestions for reading re. co-dependency, whether as an actually physical book or online.

[SavageBeauty73]

Codependent No More - Melody Beattie

I read it after I left my alcoholic ex. Wish I had read it years ago!

[PacificDogwod]

Thank you, SavageBeauty. Will have a look

[pippistrelle]

The co-dependent in my life recommends that book too: he describes it as 'the gold standard'.

[PacificDogwod]

The 'addiction' in question is OCD - would it still be appropriate, do you think??

[pippistrelle]

Yes, my tame co-dependent says.

[PacificDogwod]

I don't know why 'tame co-dependent' sounds like something small, soft and furry to me?

But thanks, to you and them.

[PacificDogwod]

Him, in fact

[pippistrelle]

In true co-dependent style, he is glad to have been able to help because that must mean you like him now.

[PacificDogwod]

Tell him, I do.

Oh, feck, am I know enabling him?!

This is such a mind-fuck tbh - I am trying to help somebody close to me heart get out of a co-dependent situation, but I am not doing a good job of it, am I? Even just understanding it...

[pippistrelle]

It's a minefield, but people can get out of tricky situations, and at least start to understand their own motivations for getting into them in the first place.

Good luck to you with helping your loved one.