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long distance love

(7 Posts)
PrincessBooBoo Sat 06-Feb-16 08:22:12

Can it work???
Met someone at work who livs over 250 miles away. There could be a nice relationship here but he lives Too far away. Or does he??? Could it work? Don't want to start something only to be heartbroken

Any advice?

Savagebeauty Sat 06-Feb-16 08:25:20

My partner lives 250 miles away. We see each other every 3 weeks .
We are mid fifties and both divorced, and it suits us at the moment but we have plans to live together in 18 months.

bbpp Sat 06-Feb-16 08:35:34

I'm 200ish miles away from my partner. I think it can absolutely work as long as you're willing to make the journey to see each other fairly regularly, and there's a plan for you to move closer together within a certain time frame. There needs to be an end point in mind when you'll no longer be long distance, I think.

SquadGoals Sat 06-Feb-16 08:43:09

DH and I did long distance for 3 years - closest we were ever to each other was 190 miles and furthest was about 390 miles.

As long as you have good communication and both willing to make the effort to see each other as often as possible, it can work well.

I liked it as it meant I could concentrate on work and friends etc in the week/some weekends and then fully concentrate on DH when I was with him.

You definitely need a light at the end of the tunnel should it last, to come up with a plan and time frame for eventually moving closer to each other.

Resilience16 Sat 06-Feb-16 08:44:11

From my experience of a long distance I would say it depends what you want.
If you are both happy to only see each other every couple of weeks it can be fun in that it keeps thing fresh.
If you use holidays creatively you can wangle long weekends etc.
However the distance makes spontaneity hard, you can't just pop round midweek if you need a hug, or go see that band last minute etc etc.
The constant travelling can become a pain, and eats into the time you have together.
Like savagebeauty says above, it can work, but I think you have to have a clear plan of what you both want , and if at some stage you want to be together then one or the other of you has to be prepared to move.
Good luck!

PrincessBooBoo Sat 06-Feb-16 12:14:46

Thank you for your positive comments. Im 52 and all my children are grown up, he has none. We get on well as friends, early days though. Ill Have to be quick, he goes back to Cornwall in 3 weeks!!!!

LovePGtipsMonkey Sat 06-Feb-16 12:43:58

within the UK, i think it can definetely work, good train connections really. If he lives in a place you like (and Cornwall has a lot to offer) then the trips can be fun too. But yes, with a plan to move for one or both partners eventually.

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