Nearing breaking point...

[Gatehouse77]

...with certain people in my wider family who are putting myself and my siblings under such fucking stress about money. They are either playing games and withholding it (legally right but morally so, so wrong and other family members agree) or putting us under duress to accept a lower amount to line the pockets of their other offspring.

Selfish, arrogant, self-righteous, controlling and downright shitty. And, frankly, typical of the men of that generation in my family. I wish I was in a position to walk away but could only do that by massively compromising my own family, seriously pissing off my siblings (which I won't do as one tactic being employed is of divide and conquer) and cutting my nose off to spite my face.

Why, why, why can't they just be honest, do as they've been asked and actually stop and think about their own behaviour?

Fucking, fucketty fuck fuck. With bells on.

[Gatehouse77]

I'm mainly writing this in the hope it will he me purge some of the anger inside me, not expecting any solutions because there aren't any. They hold all the cards at the moment. But I will certainly cut off one of them if it gets resolved (unless he brings it down another generation which he could do...) and the other I'm undecided as it would directly affect my children's relationship, albeit they're unlikely to be bothered.

Hmm...[anger]

[Iloveyoutilltheend]

You sound rightly very angry.Are we talking inheritance here?

[Shan1948]

You can chose your family, always and you always have someone! I was in a terrible situation where my family didn't care about me at all and I made all of the effort so I stopped messaging them and calling them to see if they would make the effort 6months down the line I have no contact with them and it is great. I have chosen my family and it is the best all I have is my dad and my grandma as well as brilliant friends who I consider family and they are better family than blood ever was

[Gatehouse77]

Thank you for your replies.

Essentially, yes it's inheritance but some is wrapped up in trusts.

It seems that being independent and strong minded is working against us. The reason we're all independent and strong minded? Because we had to be. My parents provided food, clothes, etc. but no love, emotional support, encouragement, etc. Anything we've achieved is because we wanted it. Don't get me wrong, we weren't angels and made plenty of cockups along the way but the lessons we learnt were to rely on ourselves and that, with regard to my father, we were an inconvenience and a disappointment.

One of these issues are relatively recent but the other has been dragging on for over 2 years.