I feel so confused, I just can't take anymore abuse, I dont know how to get out.

[littlehelphere]

I'm really really stuck in an abusive relationship, he has convinced my friends and family i'm going crazy and so I have no-one to turn to anymore. He's so charming, they don't believe what he puts me through. How can I get out? would like to hear from anyone who has been through this.

[sleeplessinmybedroom]

You need to call woman's aid. They can help you to escape. 0808 2000 247

[Finola1step]

Call Women's Aid.

[FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse]

Please call women's aid. They will help you. You need to get out

[DespicableBee]

It doesn't matter that your family and friends think your crazy, you can still leave

[littlehelphere]

No, you don't understand, I don't live with him, I have my own home. I don't need to run away, he doesn't hit me. He messes with my head and threatens me, suffocates me, he comes here looks through my windows and sees every move I make. He takes photos of me. Im not doing anything wrong but its just such an invasion of privacy.

[stumblymonkey]

Break off the relationship....if you live alone what is stopping you from ending the relationship?

You can report this to the police as emotional abuse and harassment.

Start to take notes with dates, times and exactly what happens...what is said, etc. Keep anything that can corroborate what you are saying...texts/emails/etc.

What matters most at this point is ending the relationship and reporting this behaviour if it continues once the relationship has ended.
It doesn't really matter if friends and family believe you does it?

[Oswin]

Does he have a key? If so change the locks.
If he turns up call the police straight away.
Then get a restraining order.
You can be free of him.

[littlehelphere]

If no one believes me then how can I have support? Im lost. Im only posting on here now because I threw him out. He doesn't let me on the internet, he doesn't let me even go to the shop.

[FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse]

You need the police to support you with the harassment.

You can get support by just saying "it wasn't working out". If things carry on and he harrasses you, you can then tell them he won't leave you alone.

[diggerdigsdogs]

Call the police.

[FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse]

You won't need as much support once you've left him and he's out of your head.

[WhereToSheNow]

Do you mean he doesn't let you go on the internet/to the shop when he's with you, or all of the time?

[Finola1step]

Report him to the police for harassment.

[Jw35]

I don't understand how he's stopping you do things but doesn't live with you? You need a restraining order

[QuiteLikely5]

You really need to call 101.

Explain you are not certain if his actions are a crime but that you feel quite threatened. Then open up to the call handler.

This man sounds dangerous.

[TheHobbitMum]

You need to call the police on 101 and get advice this man sounds worryingly dangerous. You can be free of him x

[stumblymonkey]

Just tell friends and family it didn't work out...get support from here, find some local support groups of people who've been through the same thing, get a counsellor through your GP or Relate.

Definite first steps are to get him out of your life though. Change locks. Change your number. Let the police know. Write down anything that happens so that you can use this as evidence for restraining order if it's needed in the future.

[Threefishys]

You're on the internet now though aren't you. , so that means you can access resources to deal with this.

[Shutthatdoor]

You're on the internet now though aren't you. , so that means you can access resources to deal with this.

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