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Date with a man who has no dc . I'm 45 with do and he is 41 . WWYD ?

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darlingish Wed 06-Jan-16 17:38:23

I've been talking to a man online and we're getting on really well .
I've made it clear Im too old for more DC and that he should be looking to meet someone where its at least an option .
He still wants us to meet Says he's looking for friendship and maybe more in the long term . No flings etc . My daughter says I think too deeply and I'm not marrying the guy and should go for coffee .
I worry what if we just connect ... It happens . I've been married 25 years and only ever dated one other man so am new to any sort of dating really but he seems genuine and kind with similar values.
I just know how I'd feel if I was his mother . Of course ultimately Id want him to be happy but ... Crikey am I thinking too deeply ?? WWYD ?

Cabrinha Wed 06-Jan-16 17:49:57

Well, you don't even say if he wants children?
I dated 2 men in their 40s who didn't.

Northernnights Wed 06-Jan-16 17:50:11

So you haven't actually been out with him yet?
If so, you are way overthinking. Even if you have been on a few dates, you are still overthinking this.
Dating is all about getting to know someone before deciding to embark on a relationship and deciding what kind of relationship.
Date him, then decide whether it is worth pursuing. And relax and have a good time.

Lweji Wed 06-Jan-16 17:52:06

You don't even know if he can have children.
In all likelihood he's just looking for a sex buddy anyway. <helpful>

flatbellyfella Wed 06-Jan-16 18:47:21

It is possible to have male friends that are just that, & not sexual partners, go for a coffee with him, nothing ventured, nothing gained. You may get a friend for life, or if there is a sparkle in his eye that attracts you, go for it.

user7755 Wed 06-Jan-16 18:48:42

You are imagining what his mother would think?

You are definitely over thinking this!

StitchesInTime Wed 06-Jan-16 18:57:09

He may not want children. Not everyone wants children.

Youu've made it clear that you're too old for children. He still wants to meet you and get to know you better. I'd take that as a sign that the possibility of having children isn't a top priority for this man, personally.

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