I've posted this in the sex topic, but no one seems to be reading it (and I'm being impatient sorry). Sorry if I've posted it in the wrong place. Any advice very welcome. I'm not a troll honest.
I've name changed because I'm very identifiable on this site.
Briefly, I was with my ex for 26 years, never ever had a problem having an orgasm through sex or otherwise. I separated from him at the beginning of last year and then went through a very difficult divorce during the year. I have recently met a new man and started having sex with him.
He does everything right but I just can't come! I have a couple of times through oral but not through PIV and I really want to. I think he's starting to become a bit fixated on making me come which I can see will start to add pressure to me (and him).
I'm 45 so wondering if menopausal things are happening. I tried to masturbate the other day and failed to come then too (admittedly was disturbed by both the cat and my ds). I've not failed to orgasm through masturbation otherwise.
Any solutions? Any ideas? What can I try? I really don't want this to become an issue and I just want to have an orgasm with lovely new man.
I'm hoping it's just a psychological issue and will resolve itself, but any pointers or tips would be helpful.
Thanks
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