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He won't leave me alone..advice?

(12 Posts)
Neverrains155 Sun 03-Jan-16 14:31:18

Basically met this guy exchanged numbers.
Started texting he was so intense sending me hundreds of texts a day.
If I was at work he would text 20 in a row till I replied.
It was New Year's Eve and he text "this time next year if your lucky we will be spending the night together and you will be waking up with me"
Then went on to say "I love back tickles,do you?cant wait to snuggle"
Ok ...we haven't been on a date yet.
I said in the nicest way I don't think I'm ready to date and he seemed lovely but I don't want to lead him on etc and best if we left it.

He then went on to say ok no dates we can be friends who cuddle.
Sunday we will have a pj party with a Chinese..he then said do you like my pjs and sent a pic of him in his boxers.
Then said do you like them?i told him again no and still texting saying what's the harm.
I block him and 20 mins later he has text me off another number.
Found me on twitter and added me to snap chat.
He has got me demented.

hadtoregregister Sun 03-Jan-16 14:32:43

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

DoreenLethal Sun 03-Jan-16 14:34:44

Have you actually MET him in person?

I'd block him on every contact possible.

tsonlyme Sun 03-Jan-16 14:34:48

I think the standard advice is to sent a cease and desist message along the lines of: I am not interested in you, please do not contact me again, if you do I will consider it harassment and will be contacting the police.

Then if he does contact you again follow it through and call 101.

He sounds nuts!

WorraLiberty Sun 03-Jan-16 14:36:05

hadtoregregister has it right.

Stop feeding him and he'll get bored.

Concerned97 Sun 03-Jan-16 14:37:48

What itonlyme said, do that!

Neverrains155 Sun 03-Jan-16 14:38:06

We met in a pub just talked he seemed normal.
I've just blocked the second number now and twitter etc.
Fingers crossed he doesn't text off another.
Told me it's been 4 years he has been single ...can't think why.

TheCrazyDuchess Sun 03-Jan-16 14:38:24

I agree with one final cease and desist message then block everywhere.

If he continues then start to keep copies of the messages and report to 101.

DurhamDurham Sun 03-Jan-16 14:38:31

Don't reply at all, he will see any communication as a positive response. Hopefully he'll move on soon, he sounds like a nightmare.

Threefishys Sun 03-Jan-16 18:14:50

Like so many women, some men also get sucked into the Hollywood version of courting a woman ie badgering her until she falls for him . . Block and hope that he's only a misguided romantic who will get the message. If not as others said, 101.

ColdWhiteWinePlease Sun 03-Jan-16 20:09:09

Fucking hell!

Don't reply to anything. That's the only way to shut this down.

StopShoutingAtYourBrother Sun 03-Jan-16 20:25:23

I'd suggest you read 'the gift of fear.' There's a whole chapter on this very topic.

You can try one cease note but I doubt it will help. You need to ignore. Totally ignore and stick to your no if they try persuading you to develop a friendship / relationship. Don't be pressured into anything at all with this person - not a coffee, nothing at all. Follow your instincts.

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