Do you have Mother Issues???

[Chatterbox1979]

Hi... I've never posted on a page like this before... I'm getting to the end of my rope and I don't know what to do...

My mother and I have never really gotten on very well... Except for when I lived 2,500km from home... We got on ok then...

Things are different now... I have a family of my own of two beautiful children, it's not just me anymore... My kids see very little of my parents... My kids asked for a sleepover... It took a year before they could actually have them for a sleepover...

I've got two kids... My younger sister has 5 children... My mum goes to all of their performances and end of year things at my sisters kids school but have been to 3 things of my kids in the last 6 years at school... My mum looks after my sisters kids all the time...

I found out I needed knee surgery... So I told Mum... She said well I can't help you with the kids or anything... I said I don't even know when the surgery is yet! She replies with, we are still busy... Surgery comes around... I don't even get a phone call the night before the surgery or the day of surgery to see how I was... In fact it took 3 days for me to get a call to see how I was! The excuse... We were busy with Christmas parties and forgot...

People say don't contact them and ignore what they say... How can I? She's my
Mother... She's meant to care right? She's meant to love me right?

I'm done I just don't know how to actually be done???

[RiceCrispieTreats]

Search for the "Stately Homes" thread on the Relationships board. You will find lots of other posters in the same boat as you, as well as a lot of useful resources on how to handle self-absorbed parents, and how to get over the emotional scars they caused.