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Will it ever happen for me ...?

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Kimberley00001 · 24/12/2015 17:25

Hi, don't really know where to start with all this but I'd appreciate any advice given. About 6 months ago I asked my ex partner to move out, this was fully the right decision and I havent looked back, but he was my only long term relationship ( I'm early 30s) he is early 40s, I have 1 child with s/n and I'm feeling I want to start dating, and that I'm ready but it isn't happening for me. Obviously my male friends think I'm great and don't understand why it hasn't happened and I've tried online and the messages fizzle out before it gets to the meet stage or I do meet them and they like me, but they cool off after and say oh you live too far or something like that. I don't know whether it's worth mentioning but I have been told I'm very very pretty and I get lots of offers for ons, but not much else. I did recently have a thing with a man quite a few years older and it later came out he had a gf, is known him a while and tbh it hurt he'd lied and just wanted sex Sad just to add too I am a full time student in a female dominated course, so I don't meet anyone there and I'm not working as single parent ( again this puts off men online for some reason too) so I'm running out of ideas really . Any advice appreciated x

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Lacoba66 · 24/12/2015 20:18

Kimberley is the anyway, that you could join a local meet up group for singles who do hobbies that you have in common? Even if it were once a month, it would give you something to look forward to.

OLD is quite brutal, so unless you just enjoy it for an evening out for a natter with no expectations, then you are always going to come away feeling a bit deflated.

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Kimberley00001 · 24/12/2015 20:36

I think I might look into that. I do find it difficult to do things like that on my own. All my friends have gone from one relationship to another it's making me wonder why it's so easy for them and not me. I guess it's the time of year and just wanting a piece of what everyone else has Xmas Sad

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Lacoba66 · 24/12/2015 21:32

Ooh, don't kid yourself Kimberley that everyone has a piece of something at this time of year (or any other time).

Just because your friends go from one relationship to another, doesn't mean that they are happy- in fact I would say (no disrespect to them) that the opposite may be true.

Have faith, but in the meantime, don't let life pass you by, just waiting. Happy Christmas by the way! Grin

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Kimberley00001 · 24/12/2015 22:59

Happy Xmas to you too Lacoba, and thank you for putting things in perspective ...

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