I would appreciate hearing how other people see this. We are travelling over Christmas and DH said how about we see his uncle and aunt. We very rarely see them - like every 2-3 yrs but they are not far from our route. So I contacted aunt only because I have occasionally emailed before. Are they free on a certain day around 3 pm? She came back and said yes and - this is the killer - would we like a bite to eat to see us on our way? So I know that DH would straight away say no we do not want to put people to any trouble, but i went back and said what a kind thought and shall we bring a cake? Then I thought, they are moving a week later and I would not want to put them to any trouble so I then went back and said just that and we could bring cake and it would be really nice to see them. I then felt my email was too much to the point (I find email not a super way to communicate) and sent a further email just to reiterate that I really did not want to trouble them and we can just have tea and cake.
As we do not have their telephone number I asked if we could have it in case we had traffic problems. I then got an email back from uncle just with the telephone number.
So I never know what to do - do you say yes to food and no doubt have DH saying why have you said yes, or do you say no and risk affending people?
I think I have now done something to upset his aunt and I just hate situations like this.
I never keep out of it and just make DH deal with his family.
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