I'd appreciate some advice as I feel like I'm not able to get impartial advice from friends. Happy to take a kicking if that's the general consensus.
I decided a while ago that I wouldn't allow any future relationships to be part of my DS's life. this was fine for a few years but in the last 2 years I have had a relationship that took me by surprise and I was overwhelmed by the kindness, love and acceptance that my DP gave me (previous r'ship was EA). He was also amazing with my DS and I (stupidly?) allowed them to form a relationship and now DP lives with us - has done for about 1 year now. My DS also has a v good relationship with his dad and we have 50/50 care so a good foundation there if thats relevant - i think it is?
The issue is this: I have always had feelings for a mutual friend of ours but didn't think it was reciprocated despite a close connection that was/is obvious to all (inc my DP). It is now apparent that this attraction is mutual and I am struggling with the mess this will/has created.
Do I stay with my DP and 'work' at something that I believe has always had something missing, because he is a good, kind, generous and 'ticks all the boxes' kind of man or do I take a chance with someone that I have always had strong feelings for but is an 'unknown' in terms of relationships etc.
I would also insist on my DS not being involved in any future relationships regardless of what happens now - I have learnt my lesson on this :-(
I really would appreciate some perspective, I have read other threads but each situation is so very unique.
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Advice appreciated
nightingalesings · 16/12/2015 20:01
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