How would you feel about this situation?
We'd been seeing each other casually for 1.5 months. We were sleeping together. We had 7 dates. We had discussed it and had agreed we would be only sleeping with each other. We weren't considering a deep or very long term relationship as both of us only wanted "casual"; but with respect and honesty paramount.
He was continuing texting other people (I was as well) but we'd said we weren't seeing anyone else and definitely not sleeping with others and both had said we were turning down dates and just enjoying each other a bit for now. He ended up having sex with one of the people he was messaging with. It was pre-medicated and not a drunken fumble.
One the one hand we weren't fully in a relationship , and it was very early days and we had agreed "casual" so not sure I can say he cheated on me. One the other hand he lied (by omission at minimum) and we had promised each other total honesty which was the key premise of our arrangement.
I was upset and angry about being lied to, far more upset and angry than I probably should be and it dawned on me that I had feelings for him and I was actually very upset. I cut him off completely and told him not to contact me anymore.
A few months have passed and he has contacted me to tell me he really misses me and wishes he'd not done what he did and is asking for a clean slate. To date "properly".
I'm torn, because I am not sure I can trust him but really would like to be with him. I am still really angry!
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Should I try again with him?
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backto1954 · 14/12/2015 14:55
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