I'm afraid it's a long story. I was invited to my cousin's wedding years ago and accepted. I booked DM and I into a hotel. However, DM did not receive an invitation and it became clear that this was intentional. She was deeply hurt. On the day, I simply could not face going as I felt that by doing so I would be betraying my DM and accepting that it was ok to treat her in that way. I therefore did not turn up. Obviously this was not the best approach and I am older and wiser now. I then explained to my aunt why this had happened and she said that she was deeply ashamed of what she had done (she arranged it rather than my cousin and his wife as they were abroad) and asked me to promise not to tell anyone why I didn't go. Foolishly I agreed. Since then her other DCs have been incredibly rude to me and blank me in public. The cousin who got married is not in contact any more but he has always been polite although not interested in staying in touch, understandably so as I did not provide him with an explanation. My aunt has not made any effort to say that it was a personal reason that could not be shared but that it was legitimate. Anyway, over a decade on, I have received the round robin with all the news. I know that I will not meet her grandchildren and that I am not considered part of the family any more by her DCs. However, she wants to stay in touch and visit in the NY etc. I didn't go to a family event in the summer because I knew most of the people wouldn't bother to talk to me anyway. I now feel that enough is enough and that I have been judged and condemned for ages over something that that I handled badly but was actually quite understandable in the circumstances. I am now proposing to write to her to pretty much says this and say that as nobody treats me very well that I wish to break off all contact from now on. WWYD?
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