Been with OH for 8 years. Have a dd who is 5 and jointly own the property where we live. Not married.
Problems over the years with trust. I discovered him on hook up type sites years ago early into relationship. No evidence that he ever met up with anyone from them. I read messages etc. We split up and he did a massive get me back campaign which after a few months I fell for. Ever since I've never really trusted.... and should never have stayed in relationship if I'm honest.
We had a chat a while ago. Sometimes I have just that feeling in my gut that he still lies. I don't believe he is up to anything physical ....OW etc. I sometimes fear that he's concealing seedy stuff though....just a feeling. I asked outright if he had other devices phones etc? and he stated he doesn't. I wanted to believe him. We have been through quite a bit in last few years. Late miscarriages etc. I feel our relationship is fragile. I however feel he wants to make it work.
He is a totally hands on dad and a very dependable partner. Has to go away quite a bit with work. Always sorts things to get home early as he can etc. Never makes excuses to be away from us.
We have had counselling as a couple in the past. I always felt he's not very receptive in this kind of situation. We tried.
Today I found out from another colleague that work had issued him with a new tablet a couple of months ago. I asked him why he didn't tell me? He said he's only used it once for work and it's in the boot of his car in the box it came in. He said he thought he'd told me. He one hundred percent hasn't. He has chosen not to tell me for whatever reason.
I'm really upset that he has yet again lied. Be it by omission. I crave normality in my relationship and trust.
I guess this sounds like nothing major. To me it's huge. It's the lies I can't stand in any shape or form.
I feel really disrespected and hurt.
His car is parked in the staff car park and he's away. I could go and find it. I don't want to really go down that route though.
I want my little family to stay together but I can't entertain lies. I don't really know what to do next.
Thanks for reading, sorry it's so long have condensed it down!!
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I think I need to call this a day but not sure I have the strength.
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Only1scoop · 09/12/2015 19:37
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