So my dd (who is 3) has lots going on. She was released from hospital last Tuesday after an infection, from an operation she had to stop sleep apnea.
She was born without cranial nerves on one side of her face resulting in facial palsy, she has hyperacusis, hypermobility, severely long sighted and is being assessed for SEN.
She is very high needs but we muddle along. I've done several threads about my family in regards to my daughter.
Anyway, my dsis is supposed to be my best friend and I've always supported her through some rough times but since my ddad made his opinion clear about dd she's been mirroring their opinion.
So dd has been saying she wants to go back to pre school which I completely support, preschool said they would love her back next Monday after a risk assessment and plan of action in regards to her health needs.
Explaining this to dsis and she responds "I'm so glad I can just take my dd to school and not have to faff around like you", I was a bit shocked and said "it's good you don't have a disabled child". She was at me and said dd is not disabled, disabled is in a wheelchair (which I obviously know is also disabled) and therefore dd wasn't and I shouldn't be using that word so loosely.
I just chose to finish the conversation with "there are many versions of disability".
I feel so let down by her, I don't want sympathy but I'd like it if she didn't say things like thank god, iyswim.
I've had people comment on dds face saying this freaky and she looks miserable etc so her comment stung.
If she mentions it again what should I say?
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"shes not disabled"
Esmeismyhero · 01/12/2015 17:53
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