Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
My mum is really depressed (in hindsight this has been going on for several years) and as such cannot cope at all with stressful situations, she basically melts down. This year my dad has been diagnosed with cancer and is currently undergoing chemo. This is obviously a very traumatic time for everyone, but mum is just unable to cope. She is against chemo for a start, and is not able to put her feelings aside to support dad. The atmosphere in the house is horrendous and as a result dad is very upset and I believe getting depressed himself.
This weekend my siblings and I, along with dad spoke to mum about the possibility that she might be depressed and suggested seeing the doctor to get some help. We were very gentle, explaining that we love her and why we think that way, and also trying to make her see that she needs to be in the right frame of mind to support dad etc and to make things easier for her. This all went down like a lead balloon, and she did not take in at all what we were saying, just got very upset and angry and accused us all of ganging up on her and telling her how rubbish she is. Now this is really not the case, but she was not able to see where we were coming from at all and just got very distressed.
She is adamant that she does not want to see the doctor, will not consider anti depressants, and is not interested in counselling (any kind, including speaking to macmillan nurses). She has said that this was the worst weekend of her life and she will never trust or confide in any of us again.
Basically she is very distressed, and still not considering she may need help, now she feels she is isolated from us too as she doesn’t trust us any more. Does anyone have any suggestion as to what i can do to help? I am really worried that dad is in decline due to the stress of it all, and of course I want to help mum as well.
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mome · 01/12/2015 13:27
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