Ok so this follows on from my recent rant here on the subject of my Thundercunt stbxh. Who from hereon in I refer to as Supermario due to midlife crisis image 'revamp'.
New proper arrangements starting this Friday (yesterday) with dd1 (12yo) walking straight from school to his house. She had a party to go that evening.
On advice of my therapist, decided to get dd1 to sort out arrangements with her dad to avoid getting into discussions with him. She wanted her friend to come home with her to get ready for her party. I told her to ask Supermario about this and about arrangements. He moved house this same week into swanky 500K house with trophy bonkers girlfriend
So dd1 texts him, Tues, asking. Bear in mind he never contacts the dc so hasn't spoken to his dd1 for over 2 weeks. He texts back sarcastically: 'I'm fine, thanks for asking'. WTF? dd1 (lovely sensitive girl trying to get her head around why she only gets crumbs of a relationship with him) reacts tearily, welling up. I invite her over to the sofa for a cuddle and tell him he should not have said it. Wanker.
He then phones and says no the friend can't come over straight after school. Which is fair enough as he has just moved into swanky 500K house with trophy bonkers girlfriend and I can hear they are arranging plans for Fri.
Wed comes around. dd1 says as far as she remembers he is coming tomorrow eve to collect belongings for weekend. I ask her does she know the address of new house/where she is walking to after school? dd1 says she knows 'roughly' which house it is (her dad has shown her). I also know the road but not the house. I ask her to text him. She is stressed and worried about arrangements. She texts him. No response.
Thursday evening comes round. Nothing from him. I call him and text him - goes to voicemail.
Friday morning. call him again. Still nothing. Still no confirmation of new address and arrangements for clothes and after school. So I tell dd1 she now has to walk home because I am not having her walking around town with no phone while I'm at work, looking for a house she thinks she knows, which stbxh may or may not be in. While it gets dark.
She goes mental. Storms off to school, kicking gravel up the drive, shouting (dd1 is actually a quiet, placid, sensitive girl). I finally give way to Wankbadger-ex-Tourettes and tell her it's Your Dad's Fault!!!!!!!!!!!!! Feel shit. Supermario now AWOL for 48rs hopes are rising at this point that he has gone under a bus
1pm Friday (yesterday) Supermario comes out of the wood work, texting his address for dd1 to walk home to. I reply telling him that because he has gone AWOL/failed to clarify address by this morning she is now walking back to mine. And that the way he has communicated with dd1 has caused her quite a bit of stress/upset/anger since Tues. And that an apology to dd1 would go a long way. Which was a million times more polite than it should have been. But I am trying not to inflame the situation.
He said his phone 'went dead' 
........ and that he would say sorry. And then............... proceeded to complain SOUNDING HURT 
that dd1 'hardly ever calls meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee' on the phone iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii bought her and that all she does is 'sennnnnnnnd meeeeeeeeeeeeee demanding texts' (referring to the one text on tues asking re party).
so I reminded him. For the 1,00000000000 time (at this point the convo is becoming very reminiscent of being married to him) that HE IS THE PARENT AND SHE IS THE CHILD. FFS.
I have remained calm. I bloody regret not telling him to just fucking GROW UP!
And then he texted me again Fri eve to day dd2 is 'too tired' for (ie can't be arsed to take her to) her sports club (the club I have finally found successful after years of trying because she has ASD and struggles with social interaction).
And this, is how week 1 went. Strangely I still don't feel like I'm getting anything out of this?????????
Someone please shoot me.
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Handywoman · 21/11/2015 17:41
Stop telling your ex what to do - its not your place to tell him to say sorry to DD.
Stay out if the arrangements, stop telling DD to text him etc and don't telephone or text yourself
DD knows address now so can go to his and stick to arrangements already made.
If DD can't go for whatever reason, then tell DD you will have nice time with her - so not contact him
Stop contact with any twats in your life
hth
She's involved because it got to a point where her child's safety was potentially at risk!
Anybody with a brain cell knows kids aren't allowed phones at school, therefore she wouldn't have it after school 
In addition to that, she was told not to converse with him which is why she told DD to message him!!! You can't flame her for trying not to contact him as she was told by telling her DD to do it instead!!
OP, you're getting an unfair flaming here. This seems to be the way for MN. You get one poster, usually the first, who sets the tone for the whole thread and other posters come along and go with the grain.
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