My husband doesn't excite me

[ellliebelle]

Had a big bust up with my husband last night, totally unrelated I also got a message from a guy I used to know. When I was hurt and upset from the argument I messaged this guy back and we chatted for a good couple of hours. All completely innocent chat but it made me feel good, I was waiting with anticipation for his texts and I text him again today. He mad me smile and laugh without even trying to. It has made me realise I don't have this with my husband any more I'm not excited by him, he is more like a friend/brother. I am not happy about this and I do want to be excited by him again. I have spoken to him about this today and he says he still feels that way about me so the problems between us lay with me. How do I fix this?

[annandale]

What was the bustup about?

[ellliebelle]

We have been married almost 9 years and have 3 children I absolutely do not want to break my family up. I live my husband and do not want to be without him and he says he still wants to be with me even though I know neither of us is happy.

The bust up was because I caught him on a sew chat room.

Thank you both for replying I just feel so lost and helpless and can't speak to anyone in rl

[bearleftmonkeyright]

I am guessing you mean sex chat room, (I can't imagine arguing about embroidery!) If that he is what your DH is doing then I don't know if you can come back from it. Do you think he has been meeting women he has met on line. Is this new to you or has he done it before?