My marriage is at an all time low and may be about to end.
We have been together a long long time, since we were teenagers but our lives have changed so much since having children. I don't fancy him at all, he keeps trying to reconnect my instigating cuddles but when he does I freeze because I know he will want it lead to something.
Our lives seem to be trying to get through an endless to do list of domestic tasks while looking after children, all done while exhausted from years of broken sleep.
If I fancied him it would be much better, he would be happier which would make us all happier, but I don'tknow how I can make that happen.
What am I doing to our children? Either staying like this or separating, both options are bad for them. He wouldn't want us to separate but I can't seem to stop picking at faults and provoking arguments.
Maybe there is no advice that anyone can really give me, I just need to work out what to do myself. I suppose I needed to write my thoughts somewhere. I can't talk to anyone in real life. I have very few friends anymore and they are all married to my husband's friends so not appropriate to talk to. My family isn't lo option either as it world put them in such an awkward position as obviously they are related to him too
He is a really nice man, I am lucky to have the life that I do. It seems like madness to potentially throw it away just because I don't fancy him.
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PurplePoppies · 03/11/2015 13:34
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