I will try to keep this short; I guess I am writing to see what others would feel/think/do in this situation. Basically my older sister is behaving in a shitty way and its been going on so long that its getting ridiculous. She left her husband of 20 years five years ago. Her two boys were grown up. She then met someone I will call Man A (its confusing). I knew Man A from work years ago and his wife had died a few months before my sister met him. She started seeing Man A although he stipulated from the beginning that he didn't want anything serious. Man A is quite a closed book and he does not even particularly mention anything about my sister to me when I very rarely bump into him. To be honest I think my sister always felt more for Man A than he did for her. Anyway, a few months later she started seeing Man B who is quite a close friend of the family. They moved in together. Four years later she is still with Man B living in a rented property together. He is considering buying a house with her. The problem is that for the whole time she has also been seeing Man A on an intermittent basis. Man A has no idea about Man B. Man B I think has had some idea that my sister has a couple of male friends and possibly hasn't always been entirely innocent in their relationship but they have always discussed this and she maintains her 'innocence'. Man B certainly has no idea of the extent of her cheating. My sister often says to me that she will stop seeing Man A but can never seem to stick to it. My sister's sons have kind of guessed whats going on but try to keep out of it. Our brother and his wife know about it; my brother gets quite angry about it all but his wife says that we should not get involved at all.
I very much do not want to get involved and keep out of it all as much as I possibly can. But it is difficult when you regularly see the different people involved (my daughter is quite close to her cousins, etc). For a long time I supported her and tried to help her make the right decision but now I feel it is difficult to keep respecting someone who is behaving like that. Please help me sort out my feelings about this. How would you all deal with it?
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showtime7 · 12/10/2015 21:43
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