Brief history, I separated from my husband (mutual agreement) nearly three months later a mutual friend (that I hadn't seen for a fair while and lives a fair distance from me) got in touch and and we regularly chatted (nearly every day), two months later we almost met up but he got cold feet. He was going through a tough time himself. I got really upset, he couldn't see what he'd done wrong even though meeting up had been insinuated by him. I backed right off, but within a couple of weeks he was sending me messages.
The messages restarted as just normal friendly how are you doing type messages but quite quickly went back to being really flirty on both sides.
Two months down the line he asks when I'm going to be going up. So I give a rough date (nearly two months away) now we're five ish weeks away from that date and he's obviously got cold feet and said he's not ready for a relationship as he needs to sort himself out, he's an emotional mess etc. I get that he's been through a tough time in the last year with an ex what I find hard to cope with is leading me on and then dropping me. Although I'm pleased he's said this before I stayed with him (it would have been a big thing for me to have had sex)
I've also realised that majority of the times he's said he wanted me and wanted to see me was after a few drinks.
I'm new to all of this having been married for 17 years and a long relationship before that. Both not particularly healthy.
I'm really devastated by this though, more so than my marriage breaking down. We really clicked, he made me smile and is just a nice decent guy. The problem I have is that I'm not sleeping and I am now suffering from anxiety and think I'm having panic attacks.
How do you get over the rejection?
How do you move on from this?
Why am I reacting like this?! I'm normally so level headed...
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Please help me deal with this, friendship that was almost relationship (sad)
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Chocamochalatte · 28/09/2015 19:25
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