My husband is a permanently angry man lately. When he comes home from work he is either shouting at the dc aged just turned 10 and 7 and me for an untidy house usually if there are toys around such as lego, cars or play Mobil. Or he is a filthy mood from work and shouts and swears at me. On Friday he didn't shout at us but was miserable and sullen. I asked him if he was ok and if he'd had another bad day at work. No he was fine he said. So I asked if was fine then why are you so sullen and grumpy then. I don't have to be happy do I he said. It was a good ten minutes before he would speak to ds and that was just to snap at him. Ds1 was playing outside. He then said are you going to get ds1 in or not? So I did but then took them to the shops because the atmosphere was terrible. The boys have even said to me let's make sure that we are out when daddy gets home because he always shouts at us.
If my ten year old hits ds2 h gets angry and snacks him. When I get angry with him for doing that he says he hit ds2. It's like that justifies it. He shouts at the kids. I tells him he's a bully and I get ridiculed for it. He is though. The other morning before school he told ds1 that I don't have a little boy I have a monster.
Yesterday we went out for the day and i went to the toilet and left them alone for two minutes. When I went to join them ds1 was crying. He said daddy pushed me over. His knees were covered in mud. I asked h what happened and he said I just pushed him that's all. Ds1 pushed ds2 so I pushed him. He was totally unapologetic. I was furious!
I know I need to leave him. My questions are where? how? I have nowhere to go! :-( We own our house and I'd like to stay but he would never leave. He doesn't see our marriage in trouble or that he has done anything wrong.
My worry is if we split up he would have to see them at least every other weekend. And isn't that the minimum? He would be alone with them. I wouldn't be there. Who would protect my boys then?
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So upset about how he treats us. I feel it's over but don't know where to start.
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chocoholic05 · 14/09/2015 11:39
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