Does anyone out there have this problem?
My kids are all in their 20's but have low paid work, internships etc or studying. I still receive spousal maintenance (ends next year). My ex won't help the kids financially on the grounds that he is paying me maintenance which he says should cover me and the 3 kids. The kids agree. So I am using maintenance/savings and/or my pension to help them.
I'd do anything for them but they seem to think that's fine that their father should not need to, even after he stops paying maintenance. My partner also helps my kids with accommodation etc. My ex is on a substantial tax free income with no one to support but himself. It really hurts that my kids consider that everything I have is down to their father when in reality I had a well paid career before I quit to follow him abroad and to raise our three kids. I'm sure my situation is common but it's the kids attitude I find so hard.
I love them all dearly but they don't see what I do as coming from me, their Dad gets the credit. Having myself a pity party I suppose, but does any of this sound familiar, I'd love to hear I'm not alone!
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Oboe1 · 12/09/2015 20:32
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