I've previously wrangled in AIBU about DH and housework; at the current time he's better than he was a year ago but still not back to the level of fully-competent-adult which he existed at before moving in with me.
The most pressing issue now though, is that after 5+ years of this and repeated short lived improvements followed by periods of increasing resentment on my part, and other conflicts around overall workload and childcare ... my bank of goodwill is simply run dry and there's no buffer zone against any daily frustrations. So I can be calm and happy and then find myself biting down incandescent resentment if he (as typical) gets up from the table to go play on his DS oblivious to our agreement that since the kids see me cooking every meal, they should see him clear the table afterwards.
All my ability to ride the ups and downs is shot to hell which just isn't constructive, especially when he is inch by inch, improving.
So ... I badly need ideas on how to build up that bank of goodwill again. Good sex can obviously help but it's not really a go-to option at the moment with kids, tiredness, frequent OMG-stop-acting-like-I'm-your-mother frustrations . What else can work over both the short and long term?
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Rebuilding the Bank of Goodwill
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LeggyBlondeNE · 24/08/2015 14:32
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