Just that really. My mum never been physically or nakedly emotionally abusive to me, but any relationship has to be on her terms. I've increasingly realised that I just don't like her, but am worried that's unfair and when she dies, I'll regret not ever having a normal mother/daughter relationship with her. When I was a kid it was OK-ish, though she favoured my younger siblings. As soon as I hit puberty, that was it, she was disappointed in everything I've ever done since, and I'm now in my 40's. She spends a couple of afternoons a week with my kids, so it would be unfair on all of them to do anything dramatic like go NC, but they're now being replaced in her affections by her younger grandkids. I guess that noticing that, plus my eldest now being the age I was when the relationship with my mum was permanently broken, it's bringing a lot of these feelings to the surface. I'm scared I'll lose her forever too.
What do you think - should I make an effort with her or accept my feelings and live with the consequences?
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Does it matter if you don't like your mother?
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linesandlines · 15/08/2015 17:13
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