Dear friend is on her way to stay for a few days/as long as she needs, 2 DC in tow. Her partner stayed out all night at OW house not responding to texts, says he got too drunk to come home. Follows a 2 or 3 month period of anxiety for her because of her partner's friendship with OW, plus his basic twattery having only bought in £1200 to the household YTD yet exhibiting entitled behaviour with regular socialising and heavy drinking. He's been gaslighting/minimising the last few months surprise surprise. No evidence this new friendship has yet crossed any lines but my friend has felt unwelcome to join in with their socialising from the beginning and since developing a bad taste in her mouth about the whole situation wouldn't want to build a friendship with her partners new friend anyway. So, advice is - how to help my friend work out what to do at the end of her stay? Skint so no options to separate physically in immediate future. Have already advised to take control of finances (most family benefits go to partners account, hence his seeming ability to go off drinking whenever he fancies). I know she'll obviously need emotional support too (advice welcome here too!) but not sure what approach I should take practically? Help please dear vipers?
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