My Dsis is 15 there is a 20 yr age gap between us.
A couple of yrs ago we found out she was self harming and my DM was told and basically not a lot happened, DDad isn't great and thinks shouting, and grounding etc works but it doesn't. The self harming seemed to stop and she has seemed fine ever since, unfortunately with a family of my own I don't see her much at all.
So yesterday I get a text to say she's in trouble over something, one of our other Dsis had found out she had done something and told DM and DDad. I told her it was best to be truthful but if she was going to lie make it convincing. (This is not something massive btw a small thing that DDad would likely make.a big deal of that isn't ).
This then opens the flood gates with her telling me how unhappy she is, she hates herself and her life, she wants to self harm all the time. She doesn't understand why other Dsis hates her she's never done anything to her. And lots more.
I don't know what to do, I've told her I understand with regards to self harming as I've had ED which I still struggle with and if she needs to talk I'm here, but I want to help her, I know she doesn't have to live the life I have with self hate and low self esteem feeling inadequate all the time. I couldn't change my life but I want her to be happy.
I can't approach our mum, dont get me wrong she tries but it won't help I have an instinct that it won't.
Does anyone have any ideas ? Has anyone else suffered like this and come out the other side and how did you do it ? Is there anything I can suggest, I don't honestly think she will go to counselling but can try and suggest it, is there anything else because I'm drawing a blank.
Tia
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FFSletmechangemyname · 30/07/2015 08:08
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