I've been in a relationship for 18 months (both of us are divorced, me 2.5 yrs & him 8 years) & ever since we met he's been very blasé about the fact he had an affair during his marriage.
The way he does this makes me feel uncomfortable, ((he once told me that while his ex wife was in hospital having her beasts enlarged he was "fucking someone else" and the someone else was the mum of their daughters' friend) ...that's generally how it's referenced, in those graphic terms). So after a few cheeky vodkas on Sat night I was "brave" enough to say something. Now I'm wishing I hadn't because I'm wondering if I was being over sensitive as this was before I knew him, but I just can't get beyond how uncomfortable it makes me feel. Plus there's a weird atmosphere between the 2 of us now.
I completely trust him to be faithful so that's not the issue, it just makes me feel uncomfortable when he talks like that. Prob not helped by the fact my ex had an affair.
I told him that it seems like a badge of honour to him, and maybe that's cool when he's with his mates but it's definitely not ok with me.
He has apologised & said he needs to be more mindful of my feelings, but I'm irritated that I had to say something. Surely it's obvious that it's not a pleasant thing to hear??!! I guess I should've said something before now, I just didn't expect this to evolve into such an intense relationship (I was definitely NOT looking for one when we met).
So...am I being a princess about this? Or would you also feel awkward if you were in my position? And now what...Forgive & move on or be wary?
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Affair in previous relationship - should I be wary?
cakeisnotaproperbreakfast · 26/07/2015 20:50
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