Sorry to intrude, but I am at my wits end and would value input from a mum’s perspective.
I am a married man aged 45. We have been married for 18 years and we have two beautiful daughters aged 11 and 8. I worked part-time and brought up our eldest daughter up to 4yrs old, when I returned to full time work. The problem is that since the birth of our second daughter in 2006, I have not slept in the same bed as my wife. She always sleeps in a separate bedroom with my youngest daughter who will be 9 years old this year. My youngest still behaves like a small child when she has a tantrum and still sucks on comfort blankets, which has affected her dental development.
She’s a bright kid like her sister, but can be badly behaved and spoilt at home and when visiting friend’s parents and grandparents. Like her older sister she is doing well at school, but whenever I try to discipline her at home my wife rarely supports me, citing my youngest’s age etc. ‘She’s only 5’ became ‘She’s only 6/7/8’
Whenever I try to discuss the whole situation with my DW, she becomes unreasonably defensive and cannot see any problem. Her mother recently challenged her face-to-face and my wife responded by posting on facebook about how everybody close to her thought what a terrible mother she was. My wife has many friends who jumped to her defence, which caused increased tension between her and her mum. Thankfully this has now been resolved. She is a good mum and has a fantastic support network, which includes me when things really go wrong
The only thing I have to live for is my kids. We are as poor as church mice, which is part of the problem possibly as we had a healthy income before kids came along and we had to retract our city jobs in favour of bringing up our kids – no regrets there from me!
I guess I just wish she would just LISTEN and not become defensive.
I would appreciate your objective opinion....
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Splitting up due to spoilt child?
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madeupname1970 · 23/07/2015 00:49
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