I found out recently that my husband had a fling at work about 18 months ago. I got a message from a woman he used to work with on facebook and so confronted him and he admitted it. He said it was a huge mistake and he regretted it so much.
He said she chased after him all the time, sometimes flirting and then being nasty and saying he was gay! For some reason he gave into this and they had sex somewhere at work (classy eh?), he realised it was a mistake but she kept saying she would tell me and work if he didn't continue, so it happened a few more times. She kept chasing him and then she left work but continued to phone him and ask him to be with her and when he refused being abusive and threatening him. It all came to a head recently when she said she wanted him to leave his family for her. He went round to see her to tell her to stop it once and for all. She then did what she had threatened to do and promptly found me on facebook and messaged me but told me she never wanted to see him again and that I must keep him away from her .
Anyway I am still in shock and don't know what to do. he seems really sorry and regretful and he says he is glad it is all out in the open because he hated deceiving me (well he shouldn't have bloody done it then...)
I have always said I would never put up with cheating but even though I hate him at the moment, I do still love him and I don't want to rip our family apart, it would be devastating for our children.
Have any of you got past cheating? I don't know what to do.
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TheCatCameBackAgain · 22/07/2015 13:41
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