I have very recently come to the realisation that both of my parents show lots of autistic traits.
I'm trying to note them down as I think of them so I have a clear picture if they fit the diagnostic criteria.
But this process has just opened up my entire life, especially my childhood to analysis I've never had before.
I feel like my parents aren't who I thought they were. I'm seeing DM in a more sympathetic light and my DF in a very critical light.
I can't blame them for not recognising their behaviours as there was no public knowledge of adult aspergers etc in the 80s.
But I do feel like I've been dealt a rubbish hand in life in parenting terms. Sometimes we were quite well off so from the outside it seemed like I had an enviable childhood but I was thoroughly miserable and now I see that my parents weren't really fit to parent.
I'm quite scared that I've learned a lot of not great behaviours from them and have blindedly copied some of their parenting into my DCs. I'm worried about not repeating their mistakes and possibly limiting their contact with DCs from now on, esp with DF.
I do feel like the way I saw my world has now been swept away and now I'm trying to piece it together and make sense of it.
Has anyone else had experience of this?
Most I can find online is about parents parenting asd DCs not the other way around.
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Does anyone have a parent with (or they suspect) autism/aspergers/asd/hfa?
Athenaviolet · 21/07/2015 14:07
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