Just so I don't sound mean and heartless, this is a fledgling, new relationship of only a couple of months.
He chased me quite a lot for the first while, was very consistent with calls and making an effort to see me and the past couple of weeks he's not really been arsed. He stopped calling, sometimes goes a few days without a text. Not seen him for two weeks actually and I did try but he was a bit evasive.
I don't think he really wants to be my boyfriend anymore, but when I tried in my own crap way to dump last week I somehow came away with more of a commitment. He seemed shocked and was asking what he's done wrong and wanted to discuss long term.
He's off away for two weeks holiday now, and when he gets back I am off away for two weeks of my own holiday and he basically evaded seeing me before he went so I am not sure how I am in this "non-relationship" but he basically expects us to pick up where we left off when the holidays are done. Not what I want from a relationship and it feels really off. I feel pretty unwanted.
I don't really want to "sort it out", I just want to go out with someone who doesn't act like that but feel really guilty, like I need to end it with him first but I have no idea how to end it with someone I never speak to.
I get very weird boyfriendly texts out of nowhere filling me in on the minutae of his mortgage. It's weird!
I won't be able to see him face to face to dump, and don't want to continue with this farce, but is it acceptable to call or send a text to dump? Really don't want to call...I'd be nervous. Can I send a text?
If I do, what are you meant to write on such things? As I said i tried before and it just made me feel awful.
What I really want to say is; "this isn't a relationship, I feel like an option and not a priority, you make time for what you want to make time for and your inconsistency has meant I have lost interest". But I don't want him to think this means I want him to chase me again.
He's a nice guy generally...I think just a bit hurt in the past but this isn't what I want. I just want someone who makes me feel special and amazing!
Are you supposed to explain to people why you are dumping them? I am rubbish at dumping...usually they dump me, or if I try and dump them it never sticks.
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How to dump quickly and painlessly
AtlantaMorisette · 21/07/2015 12:41
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